Relationships are like puzzles. They can be figured out. They most often make sense. With curiosity, patience, willingness to listen, compassion, and forgiveness you can figure them out.
Sometimes the patience, compassion and forgiveness is for ourselves. Why did I get triggered when my mate said that thing? Why does that behavior bother me?
Willingness to explore the deeper connections that hold up our surface is crucial. Feeling safe to explore our feelings and thoughts without getting shamed for them is just as important.
Without safety most of us wall off and defend. Given breathing room, permission, acceptance of our dark side as well as our light side, we can usually find understanding.
It is only in the light, looked at with compassion and forgiveness, that we can change our relationship puzzle into something higher and better.
Try it. It works!
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